Creating Your Own Pathway to Success and Fulfillment Part 1

"Forget about trying to compete with someone else. Create your own pathways" 

–Herbie Hancock.

As I read this quote on July 31st, 2023 in my Full Focus Planner I had to stop and think. 

What was this quote really telling me? As a recovering people pleaser I’ve always struggled with comparing myself to others. In many ways, competing, trying to be “good enough.” 

But here is a quote that emphasizes the importance of individuality and originality in achieving success and fulfillment in life. 

It encouraged me (and hopefully you) to focus on our unique strengths, interests, and passions. Not getting caught up in the constant comparison and competition with others and their seemingly perfect social media lives.

Let’s dig a little deeper: 

Embrace your uniqueness: Recognize that each of us possesses a one-of-a-kind combination of talents, experiences, and perspectives. By embracing what makes you different, you can tap into your authentic self and discover your true potential. 

Instead of imitating others, focus on developing your own strengths and using them to create a path that aligns with your values and aspirations.

Pursue your passions: I’ll admit this one has been a struggle for me. What am I truly passionate about? And if I’m not passionate about anything then can I create my own pathway? Then I had someone flip the script and ask, “What do you invest your time and effort in?” Those are the things that fuel my motivation and determination, making it easier to overcome obstacles and persevere in the face of challenges.

What about you? Do you know your passions? And if you do, are you investing time and energy in those passions? Or are you like me and struggle with this idea of passion?

Define your own success: Society often defines success based on external measures like wealth, fame, or social status. However, true success is subjective and varies from person to person. One of my favorite coaching questions is, “How do you define success?” When a client struggles with this question I ask them to imagine their 90th birthday party. Who’s in the room? What are they saying about you? 

Instead of chasing after someone else's idea of success, take the time to introspect and determine what success means to you personally. Ask yourself, “What are my values?” Then set your own goals and milestones that are aligned with those values and aspirations.

Next week, I’ll share four more ideas to help you (and me) build our own unique pathway to a more fulfilling life. In the meantime, answer these challenge questions:

August 3, 2023